In the last bulletin we learned about "fixed imagers," "changing imagers," and "non-imagers."
We discovered that imagers (either changing or fixed) communicate predominantly by talking about the pictures they see in their mind, and sometimes in their
We discovered that imagers (either changing or fixed) communicate predominantly by talking about the pictures they see in their mind, and sometimes in their
communication they will go from one picture to another with NO seeming connection. That can put a non-imager to a distinct disadvantage since the non-imager does not see pictures. To the non-imager it is necessary to bridge the ideas so they fit together logically, so the non-imager will naturally connect one idea to the next when communicating.
If you are a non-imager and your spouse jumps from topic A to topic J, it can get totally confusing, and lead to very real misunderstanding. The converse is also true. The non-imager may not realize what "pictures" the strong imager is getting from one's words. After my entire family took the course and we found out which type imager we were, my son said, "Dad, that's why we can get so frustrated when you talk about taking a trip. We get pictures and are already taking it, but if you are just thinking about it and discussing something that may never happen, it can leave us exhausted."
Changing imagers are the starters in the world and, like their images, are vary adaptable to change. They are also often poor finishers because they always see a new picture of something they want to start before the first job is finished. They tend to enjoy the unexpected coming into their lives, and comments like "variety is the spice of life" often are heard. They also usually work more effectively when involved in several different projects and can go from one to another as they desire. A child with rapidly changing imagery is capable of doing several things at once.
Fixed imagers are those whose mental pictures do not spontaneously change unless they think about changing the picture. They are the finishers in the world and therefore, in most cases, are excellent managers. They have a tendency to enjoy routine and can see to it that the job gets done day after day. They enjoy knowing what they will be doing tomorrow, next week, and next year. A fixed imager wants to plan their vacation in exact detail, while a changing imager would rather take a vacation with no plans whatsoever.
Fixed imagers' imagery can be so fixed and strong that they can hold a grudge, or a friendship, forever. However, IF they decide to change their mind about something it is a total change. If a fixed imagery person has held a grudge against a neighbor for 20 years, then something causes a change in the mind, the next day you would think the neighbor had been the best friend for life.
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If you are a non-imager and your spouse jumps from topic A to topic J, it can get totally confusing, and lead to very real misunderstanding. The converse is also true. The non-imager may not realize what "pictures" the strong imager is getting from one's words. After my entire family took the course and we found out which type imager we were, my son said, "Dad, that's why we can get so frustrated when you talk about taking a trip. We get pictures and are already taking it, but if you are just thinking about it and discussing something that may never happen, it can leave us exhausted."
Changing imagers are the starters in the world and, like their images, are vary adaptable to change. They are also often poor finishers because they always see a new picture of something they want to start before the first job is finished. They tend to enjoy the unexpected coming into their lives, and comments like "variety is the spice of life" often are heard. They also usually work more effectively when involved in several different projects and can go from one to another as they desire. A child with rapidly changing imagery is capable of doing several things at once.
Fixed imagers are those whose mental pictures do not spontaneously change unless they think about changing the picture. They are the finishers in the world and therefore, in most cases, are excellent managers. They have a tendency to enjoy routine and can see to it that the job gets done day after day. They enjoy knowing what they will be doing tomorrow, next week, and next year. A fixed imager wants to plan their vacation in exact detail, while a changing imager would rather take a vacation with no plans whatsoever.
Fixed imagers' imagery can be so fixed and strong that they can hold a grudge, or a friendship, forever. However, IF they decide to change their mind about something it is a total change. If a fixed imagery person has held a grudge against a neighbor for 20 years, then something causes a change in the mind, the next day you would think the neighbor had been the best friend for life.
(continues next week)
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